4/27/10

Yeah, I'm back online. Have something so exciting to share, I'm making the time to get on and write it down before I forget.  On Sunday, Grandma was gettign ready to leave and giving us all hugs goodbye.  She was by the door and Steve was helping her get her things around and Tyler was playing with one of his electronic alphabet leap frog toys.  I was sitting with Tyler on the floor and he typed in "B" "Y" "E" and then the toy said "bye" and he waved goodbye to grandma. Steve and I just looked at eachother and teared up.... he's so smart!  He's also just been amazing lately, "With it" almost all of the time. Sure he has his little habits like chewing his clothes and repetative behavior, etc. but he's really aware right now and interactive and talkative.  Just a really great kid to be around.

Oh and Ty is starting to get his first freckles:) His after school school if that makes sense is outside most of the afternoons and he's getting more sun than he's used to I think so his little freckles are coming out.  Speaking of which we've been busy transitioning the boys into new schools. Ben is attending a new all day preschool and is having trouble adjusting. We all are subsequently having trouble adjusting and working to help ease his transition as well as the behavior problems that are occuring as a result of the transition. Steve said last night, you knwo Melissa it's just because he hasn't been in school prior to this and hasn't had much socializiation or structured enviroment, etc.  Yep I know, and that just makes me feel more guilty about the whole thing. we essentially kept choosing Tyler over Ben in terms of priorities and resources and now Ben is suffering a bit and it breaks my heart. Tells us every day he doesn't want to go to school..actually he says he doesn't want to go to "his school" he wants to go to a different one.  He's hitting other kisd for no reason, just walkign up and punching them and having numerous potty accidents in a day now. It's really heart breaking.  Again we are working with the school on all of it and setting up reward systems for good behavior but my mommy guilt is in full force right now.

As for TY, he transitioned better than I thought. He likes school in fact, he even rides the bus from his first sfchool to his second and as far as everyone tells me, he's doing great.  But then again when I go pick him up from his second school, all the kids are playing in the back on teh equipment and in the sandbox and TYler is kinda just running around aimlessly chewing on his clothes.  So I'm not sure how much of a learning/social environment it's creating for him but it is good that he's around typical kids. In fact, the directors daughter has taken a bit of a liking to Tyler. Mentioned to her mom the other day that Tyler doesn't talk to her and asked if that meant that he didn't like her. aweee.. hopefully they'll be many of those kinds of kids throughout his life.  I really wish we could send Ben to Ty's school, we can't afford it. We pay more for TYler to go part time (2:30 - 5:00) than we do for Ben to go full time (7:45 - 5:45)... so Ben going full time where Ty goes is just not an option but it was a good part time solution for TY.

Right now we are gearing up to plan the summer programming. Summer school 3 days a week in July, splash camp 5 days a week in August.  we are working through schedules, costs, etc. how to get Ty fron place to place and where TYler will be and when. His preschool/daycare is a pay a month in advance type situation so I have to have everything planned out well ahead of time. If anyone would like to spend any days/time with Tyler this summer let me know!!  He has a few days here and there where he won't have any type of therapy going on and I'm very anxious about him staying at either his or Ben's preschool/daycare for a whole day. Would love to have some visitors stay and play with Ty thsi summer at our house and it would save us lots of $$$ too, so please, volunteer :)  

ok, I have lots more to say, just not enough time.  Love to all.